Who are you finna tryyyyyyyy?? I bet iy ain’t me OOOOHHHHH LAWD IT AINT ME CAPS CAPS CAPS
— The Poet Laureate of our generation Nathaniel Tannenbaum (via thedevonendeavor)
What I want to talk about is how emotional outbursts typically more associated with men (shouting, expressing anger openly) are given a pass in public discourse in a way that emotional outbursts typically more associated with women (crying, “getting upset”) are stigmatized. I wish to dispel the notion that women are “more emotional.” I don’t think we are. I think that the emotions women stereotypically express are what men call “emotions,” and the emotions that men typically express are somehow considered by men to be something else. This is incorrect. Anger? EMOTION. Hate? EMOTION. Resorting to violence? EMOTIONAL OUTBURST. An irrational need to be correct when all the evidence is against you? Pretty sure that’s an emotion. Resorting to shouting really loudly when you don’t like the other person’s point of view? That’s called “being too emotional to engage in a rational discussion.” Not only do I think men are at least as emotional as women, I think that these stereotypically male emotions are more damaging to rational dialogue than are stereotypically female emotions. A hurt, crying person can still listen, think, and speak. A shouting, angry person? That person is crapping all over meaningful discourse.
THIS! And this is why I think it is so important to reject the false binary of “logic vs. emotion.” We are taught to believe that what men think/feel/do = “not emotion” and what women think/feel/do “is emotion,” where “emotional” is a pejorative against women.
Wait for the guy that pursues you. The one who will make an ordinary moment seem magical. The kind of guy that brings out the best of you and makes you wanna be a better person. Wait for a guy that will be your best friend. Who will drop everything to be with you at any time. No matter what the circumstances. Wait for the guy who makes you smile like no one else. And when he smiles you know he needs you. Wait for the guy that wants to show you off to the world when you’re in sweats and have no make up on, but loves it when you get all dolled up for him. And most of all, wait for the guy that will put you in the center of his universe because that’s where you belong.
— thelovenotebook (via thelovenotebook)
You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.
— Thích Nhất Hạnh (via purplebuddhaproject)
We as Black people have to tell our own stories. We have to document our history. When we allow someone else to document our history the history becomes twisted and we get written out. We get our noses blown off.
— Erykah Badu, The Black Power Mixtape 1967-1975. (via ovarycool)